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My Akashic Reading

Today I did something I’ve wanted to do for a really long time.  I had an Akashic reading.


For those of you who don’t know what that is, an Akashic reading is a reading based on information contained in your Akashic Scrolls.  In the Bible this is known as The Book of Life.  (Psalm 69:28, Philippians 4:3, Revelation 3:5, 13:8, 17:8, 20:12, 20:15 and Revelation 21:27)  The record of your every thought and deed here on Earth as recorded by God and the angels.


And in some belief systems is also believed to contain information on your previous lifetimes.


As a paranormal author, this concept has always been fascinating to me.  The possibilities for stories arising from such a library for each person who has ever lived on Earth are unlimited and fun to explore!


So after a friend had her own reading and told me about her amazing experience, she introduced me to Simone Gers  and the rest fell into place easily.


If you’ve never had a reading there are dozens of great websites on the subject, including Simone’s above in the link.  The reading is entirely based on questions that you ask, and your guides and teachers communicate with the “reader” to answer your questions.  This isn’t a psychic reading, per se, as it doesn’t tell you your future, but helps you put what you want to be in perspective based on your past and present.  It can help you to understand why you end up repeating a certain pattern in your life – perhaps you always choose emotionally unavailable partners or continue to always be broke and sick…whatever your current challenges are, this is a great chance to gain perspective into yourself as well as finding out why those patterns may be repeating.


I found it extremely insightful and accurate.  And the book ideas for how to use this experience to make a great paranormal story are already perking inside my head!


Simone was a great guide for this process.  She sent me some tips for how to phrase questions for the best responses before our session.  Once the session began she explained how everything would work and talked me through at each stage making sure I didn’t have any questions on the answers I had received or about the process of the information exchange.


I came away from the experience energized, feeling light and ready to go to work to break through the roadblocks I’ve been struggling with.


There are many different fees out there for such readings (and there are also other types of related readings, check Simone’s web page for the ones she does).  Simone is very reasonable compared with a lot of the sites I saw, but everyone needs to choose someone they are going to be comfortable with.  Like I said, I really loved the experience and would highly recommend Simone from personal experience!  If you have or have had a reading, I’d love to hear your take on the experience.  I won’t ask you for the specific reading details because very personal information is reveled and discussed, but I’d love to hear others’ experiences with this type of reading.


Off to noodle my idea for a book based off of this…



Social Media Etiquette

I’ve been meaning to turn this into an online class for a while now, but writing and some other things keep taking precedence, but I still see the need for this every single day, so decided to blog about it.

My biggest social media presence is on Facebook, so this is where I see most of the etiquette “breaches.”

Social media is about interacting – thus the word “social.”  It’s not just about shoving your book or product down everyone’s throat until they unfriend you or block you.  If you do that you’re not using social media correctly.

Trust me, readers and others in the industry will remember you and your author brand – either for good or for bad.  If you’re one of those over pushy, rude authors, they will remember you, but not in a good way!

I’ve had several readers tell me they enjoyed my books and now that they’ve “gotten to know me” better on Facebook, Twitter or at a convention or book signing that they are my fans for life.  But that’s because I use, not abuse social media.

So let’s get to some examples of what NOT to do!!

First is friending – there’s nothing wrong with friending other authors or even readers.  In fact, that’s a big part of Facebook.  But when they accept your friend request and you immediately post on their wall a hello ALONG with a link to your book or newest blog post or both….that’s annoying and a bit overkill.  Many will unfriend you right away – especially other authors, but some will give you another chance….maybe.  If they want to find out more about your book they can and will go to your page or website.  If you’re using your social media correctly, all of that information can easily be found in your profile.  So when they receive your friend request and check out your page to decide to friend you or not, they will have access to all of that information up front.  If they want to look, they will.  So if you want to post a quick, “Thanks for accepting my friend request, I look forward to getting to know you.”  That’s fine, but leave out the links or shameless self promo.

Messaging – I get these all the time and I cringe every time I see one.  I get people who message me with excerpts of their newest releases or works In progress or links to their latest blogs.  Put these in a status update so if people want to click on them to see more they will.  DON’T start messaging everyone on your friend list with this unless they specifically ask you to.  And most other authors won’t!!!  The same goes for asking people to “Like” your Amazon pages, like your other FB pages (other pen names, author pages etc), click to vote for you or your books in contests etc.  Those are for statuses so people who are interested can click to find more information.  Don’t clog people’s In Boxes with those.  These things are also great additions to your author newsletters.  Make sure you’re using the right medium to the right audience for all of your updates.

Comments – DON’T put links to your books, appearances, websites etc in comments sections of other people’s posts unless they specifically ask for it or it’s actually relevant.  If I put out a status that asks for anyone with a new fantasy release to let me know where to find it and you have a new fantasy release, then, yes, paste a link for me in the comments section!!!  If I post in my status that I’m going to be signing at a certain venue, don’t paste your latest release in the comments section to let people know you’ll be there too!  That information is for your own status!  If I wanted to use MY status to promote you being there as well I would’ve mentioned you in the first place!!  That’s rude and totally self serving, and you’ll be lucky if your comment is only deleted and you’re not unfriended.

Are you getting the idea yet that you should do your promotions on your own page?  And don’t just do promotions…also engage with others.  Talk about what’s going on in your writing life or maybe even your personal life, if you’re comfortable.  Let people get to know you, don’t be the annoying sales person who does nothing but tout your product!!

Other People’s pages – We’ve touched on this, but there’s another social media “sin” that crops up quite often.  Authors will go directly to other people’s pages and shamelessly post a link to their latest release, blog post or review.  This is a direct attempt to advertise to that author’s fan base regardless if you meant it that way or not.  If I want to promo your book, blog etc on my page, then I will.  Don’t be rude and post it on my page without permission!  I have and will again promote other authors on my page – usually authors I’m a fan of or have become friends with through either personal interaction at local chapter meetings or conferences, or social media interaction, or purely by reading their books.

Twitter – The same rules of politeness apply on Twitter.

Are you getting the idea that you don’t steal someone else’s thunder or limelight but you tout your own ON YOUR OWN PAGE????

Also, the publishing industry is actually quite a small community even though there are so many of us in it.  It’s never a good idea to talk badly about someone on FB or Twitter.  I try never to say anything bad about other authors, agents, editors, publishers etc on social media.  I don’t even share the pictures that slam on hugely popular books or authors without my take that “We probably all wish our books were successful enough to be slammed on like this one….”  And you know what?  We do!  Remember that when you slam on a wildly successful book or movie…  I’m grateful for their success because it opens doors for the rest of us, and I hope one day to have that kind of recognition for my craft…and I’m sure all of you do too.

So what SHOULD I do on Social Media? You ask…

You should interact with people.  Chat and be yourself, comment (thoughtfully) on other people’s posts or statuses, but don’t forget to be supportive and polite.  If you wouldn’t like someone commenting that to you, then don’t comment it to someone else!  If you enjoy another author’s work, then by all means, friend them on FB and follow them on Twitter and interact – without being creepy or stalking 🙂

I’m sure there is much more to say on this topic – so one of these days I’ll still probably work up an online class for this, but that’s enough for now.  It’s time to get back to my WIP.

Is it okay not to write?

I know everyone’s knee jerk answer to that will be, “No way! If you want to be a writer, you have to write…all the time, every day, consistently…end of story.
But wait. There are some exceptions and it does involve trusting your body and mind to tell you when those exceptions need to take place. I’m a firm believer that things like writer’s block are just ways that your body and mind are trying to tell you they need a break, fresh inspiration or for you to relax and come at things from a different angle.
By the same token, when writing becomes a chore that you dread doing every day, it’s time to take a break. Remember back to when you started writing. You probably had dreamed about writing for a very long time if you’re anything like me. You fantasized about sitting down to write and loving every second of it while wonderful stories spilled from your mind down to your fingers and out onto the page. You imagined it being fun, fulfilling and exciting to do. And it still can be. But too much of anything and your body will cry foul – that it needs a break.
I recently hit such a patch just around the holidays. Things were crazy and I didn’t have much emotional energy left over for my characters. It wasn’t that I didn’t think about them and that plot ideas for my story didn’t still spill through my head, but the thought of sitting down to write made me even more tired, when I know on “normal” days the thought of sitting down to write excites me and puts a spring in my step.
For several years I dreamed of getting to stay at home full time to write. I imagined all I’d get done and how easily the books would flow. Fast forward a few years and I’m writing full time, but I should’ve been more specific with my dream. Yes, I’m writing full time, but I had to go through 7 emergency brain surgeries to get to this point where I can’t work in traditional jobs while I’m healing. And even writing is now difficult and a chore sometimes for me to do. I just physically and mentally don’t have the stamina I used to and not just for writing – for everything in my life. Now that doesn’t stop the fact that I’m grateful to be writing full time and I try to take advantage of that fact as often as possible. But if I don’t let myself rest and give myself a break then my body revolts and let’s me know that it’s in charge and not me.
I know some of you are going to say that in those circumstances maybe breaks are okay, but in normal circumstances writers must write – all the time, every day. And while I don’t disagree that that’s a good goal. It’s also a good way to burn out.
Write as much as you can. Become disciplined about it and you’ll be very thankful that you did. Your writing will improve, agents and editors will notice and you’ll finish more stories in a quicker timeframe. But sometimes – and your body and mind will be able to tell you when – sometimes you just need a bit of a breather.
And you’ll be amazed how much a few days or even a few weeks off will help you reinstall the wonder and the pizazz back into your writing and your attitude about writing. Now I’m not saying to let yourself get out of the habit of writing. Maybe you could continue to write something every day. I write out a list of 10 blessings and why they are blessings every morning. It may not be the paranormal romance I usually write, but it forces my mind to work and keeps me in the habit of sitting down at my computer and writing something every day. Or you could write a paragraph. I’ve done this before on my self allowed vacations. I just sit down and write a paragraph and keep them all in one big word doc. Several of those have turned into new story ideas and even new books, so it’s not wasted effort and keeps the creative juices flowing.
But by giving myself permission to take a break and not feel guilty over it, I’m allowing my body and my mind to take a vacation and recharge, and believe me, they will show you appreciation once you come back to it. The first few days while you get back into your groove might be a bit of a challenge, but you’ll soon be back in the habit and the flow and surprised at how much easier and how much more fun writing is at that point.
So go ahead, every now and then, set a time limit and then give yourself permission to take a writing vacation. Just a tip – DON’T do this during a writing deadline. It might sound like common sense, but during a deadline you’re going to have to gut it out and meet your deadline. After all, writing is your job (even if it isn’t your full time job) and you are expected to be professional and meet your commitments. Maybe AFTER you meet your deadline would be a great time for a mini vacation – not to mention a yummy butterscotch martini or two!
In any case – happy writing!